You know, its is REALLY difficult when you have a friend and you really like him. He is nice and smart and funny and more or less polite. But he has a wife. Who used to be a part of the group, but is no longer any of those nice agreeable things, and therefore drives EVERYONE in the group freaking crazy.
The problem is that this woman has become 2 things. Born again (in the stuck up self rightious kinda way) and completely self centered. So now, she thinks she is better then everyone around her because she was married in the LDS temple, and we are not, and she doesn't stop to think about anything she says before she says it. So she says things like "any marriage outside of the temple is a joke" in a room full of not-temple wed people. And gets all her former friends ready to throttle her.
The really ironic thing is that not only was she married civally for a year first, but she used to be an on the streets, doing drugs, sex before marriage kinda person.
Now, I get that some people have issues. This one has bad mom, foster parents, love/relationship issues. But I don't understand how she can go from being a little crazy, but nice enough, to being a complete and total bitch with no social conscience and a need to have attention. (we don't all need to hear you deliberating for 10 minutes about weither or not you should drink half a can of coke, thank you very much. No matter what your blood sugar is at or how happy you are to have diabetes!)
Our whole group is feeling REALLY bad for our friend. His wife does stuff like coming to his gameing group and playing D&D with us, and then says behind his back (to one of his friend's mothers no less) that she wants him to stop hanging out with his friends and playing those childish games or she won't let their kids see his mother. Like, WTF? Its bad enough that she told me before the wedding that she wanted him to stop seeing his mother so much, but punishing the kids and grandma for his choise of hobbies??? Its not like he has grown up adult hobbies like strip clubs and drinking, or poker with the guys. But its like he can't have time or care for anyone but her, because that means he loves her less.
But what can 4 or 5 concerned friends do in that situation? We can't stand to be around her because she offhandedly insults at least one, if not all of us, on a regular basis. And she wants to keep him from the things and people he likes. And he is losing a lot of his carefree cheerful attitude that he used to have. But he loves her, and they have a kid on the way, and we are not the kind of people to say "her or us" . that would be totally unfair, and he would pick her in a second. Until she makes him so miserable that he has to do something about it.
How do you tell a friend that his wife is rude, manipulative, self-rightious, prejudice, close minded, selfish, and an attention whore?
Well, if she pisses me off one more time, he just might over hear me telling her. Oh what I wouldn't give to tell that woman off in a BIG way.